A visit to my sister

I went to visit my sister today. I am sorry to report that she has had another relapse. She has lost the weight she had gained. She told me she wasn't eating again. I feel like we are back to square one. She has no desire to leave or even try to get better. She worries about things she has no control over. She worries that her children are not being taken care of. She has two children in college and one that is 14 yrs old and still living with her cheating, cruel and terrible husband which as someone commented conveniently forgot the part in the marriage vows that say in sickness and in health.
Also he is the reason she is sick now. We had a long talk....4 hours and most of it was about her finally coming to the terms that yes indeed he is a jerk. I am glad she realizes this. My parents tried to help her, but she could not see past the part about being true to her marriage....no matter what.
I feel bad for her kids. They had to grow up in that household with their father being cruel and hateful to their mother. And now their mom is in a mental hospital with no hope.
I tried to encourage her the best I could. She mentioned that her doctor was trying to get hold of me so that I could take her out for a few hours and go out to eat or shopping or something. I told her just to let me know and I would come and we could do whatever she wanted to do.
I feel caught in the middle to an extent because I feel that the doctors should know that she is not eating. She tells them that she ate at the coffee shop. When in reality she is just not eating again.
Not sure what to do because if I do tell them....they will tell her I told them and then she won't trust me anymore.
I want to be there for her and help her in any way I can. But right now she has her mind up that things are never going to change and that she is just going to stay there for the rest of her life. She is only 50 years old.
She says there is no reason to get better because she will never have a car, a job or any reason to be out.
I wonder if they have changed her medicine....or maybe she is not taking it again. You know...pretending to and then spitting it out.
I miss my big sister. I wish that I would have known all this was going on. I would have MADE her leave him.
He is still having an affair with a married woman. He is still married to my sister.
He is the type of guy who is a charmer and everyone thinks he is a good guy....he isn't.
He does not have me fooled.
It's been a long day.
Barb

look it's me!!!

Hey everybody! How is everyone doing? I sure miss Jland...it seemed so much easier to write more often. Anyway..
What is the world have I been up to?

Rick and I are doing great! We still have Sadie Marie and she is for the most part the joy of our lives. She recently bit me, but my finger has healed and she is getting more discipline now. No more sleeping with Mom and Dad :). I think she feels bad about it. Really!
Rick just brought in the mail and I got the latest truck bill and my Good Housekeeping magazine!!! Can't wait to go out on my deck in my new chair and read it!

Eric is doing great! He still lives in Austin and is working there. He lives with his best friend Chase and wife Amy. They split the bills three ways. All three are working so it works out pretty good. But I think this will be the last year. Eric needs his own place. There have been times where he has gone grocery shopping and come home to find it all gone. Also the same with the cleaning situation.
Amy does not cook or clean. Neither does Chase....
Anyway Eric is the Daddy of Sadies pup Shelby who is already big as a horse now. She is a doll and so sweet. They come home for visits often.
We have been going fishing some. Need to plan another trip soon.

I might be going to Arkansas for a week to meet one of my friends I met online. That is a book in itself.

My sister is still in the hospital and I am wondering if she might be there forever. She has no motivation to get out, she said if she does she is going to stop taking her medicine and eating...so I think she is better off there. She also said she would go back to not bathing....so being there with the rules is best for her right now.

Her husband has filed for divorce and is trying to get custody of their son and child support...what a moron.

We are still dealing with the estate stuff. Yeah

I am just trying to take it one day at a time.
My new routine is Going up.
Get up early
Make up bed
Wash up
Look up..thank God for each day and ask for his guidance
Eat up healthy food
Dress up every day even if I never leave the house.
Read up...at least an hour a day
Sing up...as often as possible
And most important....NEVER GIVE UP!!!!

Ok that's about it for now...going to go read my new magazine and enjoy the beautiful day!

God Bless you all and never forget me! xoxBarb

MOMisms

Mom-isms....How many of you heard your Mom say this?
And how many of you find yourself saying these expressions...

" A little "birdy" told me.

Now my Mom did say this to me quite often growing up. I said the same words to Eric. One day I saw him outside just staring up at the sky. I asked him what he was looking for and he told me he was looking for that little birdy that kept telling on him because he was gonna shoot it.

"Are you lying to me?"

Now I never did quite get this one...I mean if I WAS lying to her I was not about to tell her I was! And yet I found myself asking my child the same question.

"If it were a snake it would have bitten you"

OK, but it isn't a snake! Just tell me where I put it already!!!

"I'm doing this for your own good"

I mean really spanking me and putting me on restriction is really for my own good????

"Pick that up before somebody trips on it and breaks their neck!"

I mean really? How often has this actually happened???

"Shut your mouth and eat!"

Is this even possible???

"When you have your own house then you can make the rules"

OH<<<

"Always wear clean underwear in case you are in an accident"

I mean seriously....if you are in an accident...are you really gonna have Clean underwear?

"Turn off that light! Do you think we own the electric company?"

You mean we don't? LOL

"Watch your language!"

I mean is this even possible unless you are looking in a mirror???
And my favorite

"Go to your room and think about what you did"

I already knew what I did and I got in big trouble for it, so why would I want to waste the rest of my day thinking about it.

Tell me some of you mom-isms.

Aiden and the snowman.




Payton says Hello

Cheese!!!

Bryndon, Aiden and Rick

Emily, Matt and Payton


This is my niece and her children. She is a special person in my life. She needs prayers daily :) She is going through alot. It is hard to be a Mommy to three kids and life is not easy. She is hanging in there though. Love you Emily.,

Look how much these angels have grown!

Happy New Year 2010 and a look back at 2009

2009 brought a lot of fun and adventure. It brought some work too. I made two new friends and I will treasure their friendships for life. Sometimes God puts people in our lives to help us through the rough times. Sometimes God puts us in other peoples lives to help them through theirs. I only hope that I help others as much as they have helped me. One of the first friends I would like to talk about is Scott aka Robert :) He is my duet partner on singsnap.com. We have sang over 100 duets together. I like him because he gets me. We have the same wacky sense of humor and let me tell you the guy can sing! If you have a spare moment go to singsnap and check us out.

Scott aka Robert...thank you for being my friend!
This year I also got to reconnect with my big sister. We have been through a lot this year. She continues to improve and I go to see her about once a week. She is doing much better and is now smiling more. She is a true joy in my life and I thank God for my big sister.

Me and Pam as kids.

This year I played many roles...Friend, Sister, Aunt, Mom, Wife, you name it. Life is a dance you learn as you go. Sometimes I wished I could be a genie in a bottle and blink and everything would be perfect...But life is not that way.

Another friend I made this year was Donna. She is my new BFF. We have weathered many a storm. We have spent hours..and I do mean hours on the phone laughing and sharing. God definitely brought Donna into my life and I am so grateful he did. She is such a blessing to me. She is always there for me no matter what time of night or day. I am there for her as well. Hopefully I will be going to actually meet her in person in March of 2010. She lives in Arkansas.

Always the clown. Even though life may be hard right now I plan on keeping my sense of humor...Sometimes it is the only sense I got!

In 2009 we got the pleasure of taking a trip with Eric and our granddog Shelby. We went to Port Aransas for a week and had so much fun! We even had our own private swimming pool. Shelby is already about 2 times this size now.

I wore many hats this year I was a singer, a mother, a wife, a friend, a sister, an executrix, and well all that other stuff that goes along with all of that. Each day is a new adventure.

Eric's trip with us on the houseboat

in October. We had so much fun! We rented a houseboat for a week and spent many days and nights just having a blast. Sometimes you just gotta do that. Life is too short not to celebrate the beauty of Gods world. We did a lot of fishing, eating, and watching the sun set.

Rick chilin at Choke Canyon

We took a trip just the three of us. Rick me and Sadie. This was quite a mini trip. We were almost eaten by an alligator!

Fishing at Choke Canyon

At the time of this picture I did not know that you were not suppose to wade fish. There were huge alligators living in those waters. I enjoy fishing and this was a great catch!

Eric and Shelby at Choke Canyon

We were way out in the water when this was taken. We had both dogs swimming in the water...well I can guarantee we won't be swimming here any more LOL..but it was fun before we knew the danger. We had alot of fun with Eric on this trip.

Shelby Lynn was born

I digress I know...but this year 2009 Shelby Lynn was born to our little Sadie Marie. The Daddy is a border collie

April Fools Day

My contest on singsnap.com

Rick and Barb

Eric and Me

Happy New Year 2010

I hope this finds all of you happy and well. Looking forward to a new year. Starting with a clean slate...

Things I want to accomplish this year.

Places I want to see

Come along for the ride with me.

Love you all ,

Barb

gonna start writing in here instead I think

I can't make my other blog's text bigger for some reason. So I think I will just start writing in this one again. I miss this one anyway and don't really like change. Alot is going on with me right now but I am a survivor.
As most of you know I lost both my parents last year to cancer. So I am dealing with taking care of the estate and also going to visit my sister. She is doing much better now that she is away from her abusive husband. If any family members read this I am sorry. Just stating the facts. He was mentally and probably physically abusive to her their whole married lifes. Now he is cheating on her and has filed for divorce and child support. What a jerk.
He should be taking care of her and going to visit her in the hospital. But he is just worthless.
You all know me and know that I don't talk bad about people but a spade is a spade. And an ahole is an ahole.
He actually went to the hospital and told them he was her brother trying to get guardianship of her.....well the doctors saw right through him....Thank God!
Rick and I are still working on the house in SA and ours too. Last week I went to Sa and did some more sorting, tossing and organizing and Rick stayed here and worked on our house.
I hate that everytime I go to the store about 10 different people stop me to ask where I am working now....why do they care?
Just for the record....I am not working right now because I have an estate, a sister who needs me and so much crap to figure out what I am going to do with it.
Ok well I didn't mean to make my comeback here depressing....and really I am not depressed. I am taking it one day at a time.....
We did have alot of fun with Eric and Shelby on our vacation. Next time I will write about that :)
I still sing at singsnap.com.....just in case you miss my singing....
Hugs to all of you Barb

The Modern Little Red Hen
This is a little treatise on basic economics called "The Modern little Red Hen." Once upon a time there was a little red hen who scratched about the barnyard until she uncovered some grains of wheat. She called her neighbors and said 'If we plant this wheat, we shall have bread to eat. Who will help me plant it?' "Not I, " said the cow. "Not I," said the duck. "Not I," said the pig. "Not I," said the goose. "Then I will," said the little red hen. And she did. The wheat grew tall and ripened into golden grain. "Who will help me reap my wheat?" asked the little red hen. "Not I," said the duck. "Out of my classification," said the pig. "I'd lose my seniority," said the cow. "I'd lose my unemployment compensation," said the goose. "Then I will," said the little red hen, and she did. At last the time came to bake the bread. "Who will help me bake bread?" asked the little red hen. "That would be overtime for me," said the cow. "I'd lose my welfare benefits," said the duck. "I'm a dropout and never learned how," said the pig. "If I'm to be the only helper, that's discrimination," said the goose. "Then I will," said the little red hen. She baked five loaves and held them up for the neighbors to see. They all wanted some and, in fact, demanded a share. But the little red hen said, "No, I can eat the five loaves myself." "Excess profits," cried the cow. "Capitalist leech," screamed the duck. "I demand equal rights," yelled the goose. And the pig just grunted. And they painted "unfair" picket signs and marched round and around the little red hen shouting obscenities. When the government agent came, he said to the little red hen, "You must not be greedy." "But I earned the bread," said the little red hen. "Exactly," said the agent. "That's the wonderful free enterprise system. Anyone in the barnyard can earn as much as he wants. But under our modern government regulations productive workers must divide their products with the idle." And they lived happily ever after, including the little red hen, who smiled and clucked, "I am grateful, I am grateful." But her neighbors wondered why she never again baked any more bread.








-->