Monday, November 7, 2005

Please Be Careful Ladies

Good Evening all:

This wasn't what I planned for my entry tonight, but my uncle sent this to me and I wanted to pass it along to all my j land friends.  Please be careful.  Also I noticed that I fit the profile, but do not worry about me because I know karate and defense moves.  I just so happen to wear my hair in a pony tail and it is very on and you will see what I am talking about.  But I will not cut my hair.  I also work in a grocery store.....Okay take heed. Love you guys.

Through a Rapist's Eyes  
This is important information for females of ALL ages.
Guys - please send to the female members of your
family and all your female friends and associates.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
interviewed on what they look for in a potential
victim and here are some interesting facts

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim
is hairstyle.   They are most likely to go after a
woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle
that can easily be grabbed.
They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair
are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They
will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove
quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone,
searching through their purse or doing other
activities while walking because they are off guard

and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early
morning, between 5:00 a.m. and  8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted
from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number
two is office parking lots/garages.   Number three is
public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking
to grab a woman and quickly move her to another
location where they don't have to worry about getting

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape
carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is
15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for
them to realize that going after you isn't worth it
because it will be time-consuming

9) These men said they would not pick on women who
have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be
used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.
So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not
worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If
someone is following behind you on a street or in a
garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look
them in the face and ask them a question, like what
time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't
believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad
winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify
them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK !
Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are
looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a
huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever
he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER Spray and holding it out
will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are
grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR  in the upper inner thigh  VERY VERY HARD.
One woman used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands -  the
guy needed stitches.

Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you
can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN.
If you slap a guy'sparts, it is extremely painful.
You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
told our instructor is that they want a woman who will
not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and
he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his
first two fingers and bend them back as far as
possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as
possible.   Do it with much pressure and he will end
up on his knees and make both knuckles crack audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.
Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone
with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior,
don't dismiss it, go with your instincts

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd
feel much worse if the guy really was trouble




lv2trnscrb said...

this is so good advice and very useful; thank you for posting it. I think I live in a safe town but you never know.


trickeytricky said...

Thank you for sharing this with all of us ladies. Very important message here!!!

I am a fan of the: pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. -> this works to get Michael (my boyfriend) off me... so I am sure it would work to get a rapist off me. LOL.

Thanks again.


butterflies4me04 said...

I was sent this before ... but you can never refresh your memory too much when it comes to being safe .. thanks for sharing!